love & Infactuation

What is love? i know people really ponder on this question many times in their life...

everyone is desparate to know and to feel it...

lets fist get to know about infatuation... in general people think like this..

boys: i like this girl because she is very beautiful!

girls: i like this guy because he looks handsome!

well!! this kind of opinion or thought doesnt not mean that you love them... it is called "Infatuation"

there is a vast difference between love and Infatuation. Here are some of the differences.. check them and findout if you are in real love or in infatuation

Infatuation is just feeling, it is a love of emotion where as real love involves commitment and also love of devotion. real love involves emotions and the will power but where as in infactuation only the emotions..

People generally say that "they fall in love" but infact we never fall in love.. we grow in love but where as in infatuation we fall into it. If a person ask you " have you ever seen a girl who's beauty made u faint?" well this is called infatuation because it is totally based on the physical attraction. well!! you dont know in-depth about the person so called "LOVE", therefore infatuation is mostly biological. Also, never tell a women you love her unless you are willing to get married.

Infatuation invovles selfishness where as real love is selfless, ie infatuation is intrested in satisfying yourself and your feelings rather than your partners feelings, Real love is intrested in the other person, it seeks to give instead of get. so it seeks the highest good for the other person unselfishly.

infatuation is weakens with time and also takes part in separation but where as real love, it is gets strengthened by time and separation. well!! it does not mean that there will be no pain in separation but there is great pain in separation if your love is true.

By now you must have understood what is infatuation, let now discuss about Love.

• Love is never Jealous: if you are jealous of the other person then you should think about it because jealousy indicates an insecure and immature heart, love always wants the best for the other person but jealousy is infact possessive. just like a child, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

• Love is Patient: "patient" here means to wait patiently to fulfill your expectations. if you have difficulty while dating a girl who does not want to come out, if you love her truly then you will never blame her or complain about it and instead you should look from her point of view, she must be having some problems which you should react with patience and understanding

• Love wants growth: Love wants to give the relationship time to grow at a natural pace, it wants to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties

• Love is Kind: it respects the feelings and emotions of other person, it seeks and encourages to build up on them, it finds satisfaction in other persons happiness, ie listen to each other, complimenting each other and paying attention to each others views etc...

• Love dosent Brag: Often, a guy will brag to a girl, to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself. Others will exalt him.

• Love does not act: it doest not behave indecently, dishonorably or disgracefully, it does not want to embrrass anyone by its actions, it is sensitive and is characterized by tact. love infact should have good manners

• Love is not Provoked : it doest not get irritated or angry every now and then, infact it had a long fuse,

• Love is not self centered: it always says that "i want to give you" instead of "i want you"

• Love always Perseveres: it always wants to stands its ground and hold out. it can outlast anything, it will also love on the face of unreturned love. it will last thought all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

• Love is not Arrogant: it is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up, instead it is humble and has a simple give away attitude.

• Love always Covers: it means to pass over in silence and to keep confidential, love is patient with others faults and it does not criticize or broadcast to the world about the others faults, love is always present even if the other person is not perfect

i now hope you do understand "what is love"...